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I would like to describe my encounter with the opposite sex as dynamic.
Being in Dubai especially, one meets 10 different nationalities at a single party and I do not mean a ‘singles’ party!
The pull of different talent to the city brings with it opportunities to meet men holding completely different viewpoints.
I like men to be both traditional as well as modern. It’s sexy to know a man who can be modern [in the way he dresses, and in his food choices] but is also traditional as in he believes in having a large family and knows how to protect his woman.
I think the man of today needs to define his individuality which is nurtured by the environment he lives in, ie, family, education, media, his innate personality and passion.
Every woman out to carve a niche for herself has a challenge ahead of her – to make things work. I think you can make the gender-divide work for, or against, you.
It’s a choice the woman has to make – and then work towards bridging the divide. I find it easy to cross the divide when there is a level of intellectual honesty in the conversation or situation. My own niche is not entirely defined or dictated by the phenomenon of gender divide.
There are different things that appeal to different women about men. I must admit that almost always the first thing that attracts me in a man is his intelligence.
In a quality relationship, intellect stands the test of time because along with intellect come the desired qualities which lay the foundation for a strong relationship.
When it comes to interacting with men, every woman has her cue. In my opinion, men are either a challenge to be overcome or individuals who need to be treated with deference because we are looking for peaceful coexistence.
Of course, there is a third category of interaction – in which some women are constantly engaged in one-upmanship
with men!
I think there are certain constants in this world and we
need to accept them. For example, men are better than women in performing certain tasks and vice-versa.
Personally, l believe in mutual respect for each other’s strengths because this brings about the balance which is
so necessary to make this world a better place.
My idea of a cool man is someone who takes fitness seriously because he wants to live well into his seventies; someone who is not intimidated by an intelligent, passionate woman; a man who stands up for what he believes in, a man not propelled by his ego but by the sheer power of his informed mind.
The really sexy men were the men of the ’40s who starred
in those Hollywood action movies – they were not
manicured but rode rough saddle, were strong enough to be romantic and kept their boots on till the end.
I personally think the war of the sexes can now grind to a halt. My definition of equality rests in the place where there is an absence of damaging each other’s egos.”
Satvinder Kaur Sandhu is a Dubai-based marketing and communications consultant.
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